Sunday, September 30, 2012
Death
How does a family decide what to do when someone is practically brain dead? I spent the night getting a hold of family members that are outside of the country to tell them that their dad was going to be dead in a couple of days. Yet I feel nothing, just empty. How do you figure out what's best for everyone and get a funeral in order? I watched my cousin cry but could not cry myself. Work only lets people off for three days once a death take places, how do you get everything in order and set up in only three days?
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My, what a challenging post...
ReplyDeleteThe reason I took so long to think of a response is because personal, sensitive topics like this are hard to relate with, as I've never felt this scenario and don't know all the details. I don't know if everyone feels this way, but someone else's tragedy is awkward to the general public. I also don't know you (or most Dipcans) on a personal basis, so I can't know how you would react.
Anyway, I don't understand if you are wondering why you feel unaffected or if you are wondering why there is such a short timespan allotted for funerals, or why funerals are so complicated. It seems you were a bit out of sorts at the time of this post. I send condolences to whoever was affected by the passing of this family member, even if you are not included.
PS: Sorry if this doesn't help :..(
I'm so sorry, Anna. I know there are no words to really help, but I'll be thinking about you and your family.
ReplyDeleteI find myself having a similar reaction to extremely sad situations. If something sad happens in a movie, or even on the news, it's not hard to make me cry. However, if something monumentally sad happens in my life, I find myself frozen up. I don't cry for a very long time. I used to want to kick myself for being so insensitive, but I think I've come to realize it's just my body's defense mechanisms. Our bodies and minds are confusing, especially when dealing with greif or shock. You seem to be reacting by taking charge of the situation, which could be very helpful and important to your family right now. I hope that everything works out for you and the funeral, and I'm sorry for your loss, Anna.
Jackie, I love your response. I think you are exactly right. Anna, I'm so sorry. Take care of yourself and your family.
ReplyDeleteAnna (and Jackie)- I also have the same reaction to sadness or distress in my life. I like how Jackie put it- your body's defense mechanism. So Anna, I understand what you are saying about feeling confused about not "appropriately" expressing your grief. I am very sorry for your loss. I lost my grandpa in 8th grade, so I have an idea of what you're going through. You and your family will be in my prayers.
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